Control

Nobody likes to hear that they have full control over their feelings, and they have full control over how their life turns out. I know someone that seems to float through life on a breeze and they wonder why life hands them things.  Yet, they don't believe in fate.  It's actually quite amusing to me that they are just floating waiting for life to hand things to them.  But life doesn't work that way.

If you are indeed passive, and take no stand on anything that comes your way.  Then you are your own door mat.  You are letting life kick your ass.  Then you are later depressed because life did not turn out the way that you wanted.  The way you wished, is a better phrasing for it.  Then you become a victim of circumstance. Then you have to turn your thoughts around and decide that it wasn't YOUR fault things turned out bad.  It was someone else who should have reacted differently.

If you have held onto what you WANTED and you chased after it, and you fought for it, then you have tried.     You have gone out of your way to make things happen.  Whether it be a job, or love, or any part of life that will uplift you.  If you have fought for it, then you will no longer be a door mat for life.  But you can't back down.  You can not let it slip from your fingers.